Steppin’ Out

This is going to be purely opinionated, so I am apologizing ahead of time for anything that may offend you.

John F. Kennedy. Bill Clinton. South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford. Tiger Woods?

So, yeah, I guess you could say that politicians have a bad rep for stepping out on their wives, but when an upstanding gentleman such as Tiger Woods gets out of line, you have to wonder, "What is going on?"

I sit at home watching the news on TV and I see all of these powerful and influential men cheating on their wives and tarnishing their reputations. Then I look at my wife and I think to myself, "Is there any way some bimbo could successfully pull me away from her?"

Well, mostly if I let it happen. But see here's the thing, that bimbo's success could be fueled by my wife's failure to make me feel secure in our relationship.

I saw an episode of WifeSwap (I'm still not quite sure how I feel about that show) a while ago. In the episode, a wife, who was also a mother, pulled herself away from her husband and her kids to play a video game on her computer. She would literally spend all day and all night playing this game and ignoring her family.

The husband tried to keep a well of emotions from swelling when he revisited the times when she actually spent time with the family. That was all they really wanted of her.

So what happened? The husband got pulled by a bimbo. You don't have to leave home to cheat on somebody.

I don't know if women realize it, but it's possible to cheat on a man, not necessarily with another man, but with your career, your kids, your friends, your family, your fantasies, pretty much anything that takes you away from your husband mentally, emotionally, and even physically.

I realize that I'm not a marriage counselor, but I would bet any amount of money that Elin pulled away from Tiger in some type of way.

Now, understand, I'm not at all defending Tiger & Co. because they still shouldn't have done what they did. However, I don't think that women should be letting themselves off of the hook.

You don't have to enter someone's body, or let them enter yours to cheat. The moment you seek another source for something your spouse was mandated and has agreed to supply you, you're stepping out.

Maybe it's just me, but there definitely seems like a double standard here because everyone's ready to jump men when they sleep around, but the women who abandon them get off scotch free.

As for the fellas, don't desire unrealistic expectations of the woman you love. Many already feel inferior thanks to the images the media feeds them daily about how they should look and act.

We are supposed to be gentle and understanding with the wives of our youth, not holding auditions in our homes. If our wives wanted to be Penthouse girls, they probably wouldn't have married us. If any of them did, it wouldn't be long for any of us to realize that's not what we want. Do we really want them to stoop to that level?

Now, as a man, I am visual and I don't have an issue with wives seductively displaying themselves to their husbands. But as guys, we have to make the decision to abandon any other picturesque beauty other than our wives. We need to be satisfied with what we have because we're blessed in more ways than one (even though we may seem cursed, sometimes).

Threats to oneness lurk around at every corner. The enemy is waiting for us to crack open doors so that he can try to get a foot in. If he can get a foot in, he'll try to get a leg in. Before you know it, he'll be cleaning out your refrigerator, literally.

Let's make sure he's the one stepping out and not us.